“Marriage is Not a Destination, But Rather a Life Long Journey”
From our new Monthly Contributor, Cassie from True Agape:
I am a student at heart. I believe reading is one of the easiest and cheapest ways to learn. You can read about anything really and learn a new skill in a matter of days, weeks or months. So not too long ago I was reading Start: Punch Fear in the Face, Escape Average and Do Work that Matters by Jon Acuff. The premise of the book is a lot of people at the age of 50 or 60 (or younger) ask themselves, “How did I get here?” because they never started. They didn’t particularly aim for average or ordinary but they never started doing things to make them above average or extraordinary.
When reading I got to the section titled “5 Step Secret to Getting it All Done.” I thought to myself, “Oh this is exactly what I need. Right here. It’s the missing piece!” Then, every area of my life flashed before my eyes: wife, housekeeper, blogger, events coordinator, soon to be mommy, on and on. I pictured me getting it all done in each of these areas of my life.
I mean wouldn’t that be nice?! If each of us could get everything done in all areas of our lives all the time? We as woman want that sometime (or often) don’t we? We are the ones that take care of it all! We often stress ourselves out trying to get everything done. I mean if I am being honest I would take getting it all done in one area of my life such as marriage. To be a great wife, support and meet the every need of my husband. I would take even just that!
Needless to say, I was ready to read, take notes and learn what these 5 secrets were. I continued to read and learned more than I ever expected to learn. Today, I am sharing these secrets with you so you can hopefully do the same! This is what I read:
After reading this three times and letting it simmer I realized Acuff was on to something with these steps. We can’t possibly ever get it all done! Yes, we can check things off our to-do list, but typically more is added to it. Daily I can try to check off my mental list of how to be that perfect wife, but it’s just not going to happen. One because I am not perfect. Two there are going to be days that things don’t go as planned, I don’t have enough will power or I am in need. And guess what? That is okay!
Accept the fact that “getting it all done” is not realistic. That is the reality. It does not mean you are a failure!
Leave a comment: Do you agree or disagree with Acuff’s 5 Steps?
Cassie has put together an amazing resource on this marriage. The Secret to Making Your Husband Feel Loved: 75 Ideas Using His Love Language. She has made this FREE for us and you can download it by clicking HERE.
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Newlywed CookJanuary 25, 2014 at 7:47 pm
I definitely agree! I have friends with work, new baby and newish husband and they are always stressed to the max. Finding a balance and focusing on a couple things is much more efficient Nd hopefully less stressful
True AgapeJanuary 19, 2014 at 4:37 pm
When I read this it really designated with me! I thought a lot of ladies are in the same boat as me. Just really wanting to do their best and do it all. But this helped me to understand sometimes that just isn’t realistic. Thank you for having me once again!