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Correct Priorities – Serving Your Spouse

Todd Bowman and Correct Priorities

These posts written by Todd (Amy’s husband) are designed to model a system of purposeful living.  At least once a month, he spends time setting meaningful goals around one of seventeen core priorities.


Todd Bowman

Correct Priority #4 – Social Health-Spouse 

(click here for outline of Correct Priorities)

Goal – February 2013

Show love to my wife through a purposeful act of service.  Specifically this means taking full responsibility for upkeep of the basement.  Areas of focus include:

  • Making sure it is always picked up.
  • Vacuuming once a week.  
  • Getting rid of the NordicTrack exercise equipment that is broken and hasn’t been used in years.
  • Getting rid of our old big screen TV taking up space in the back corner of the basement.
  • Getting rid of my copy machine taking up space in the back corner of the basement.
  • Organizing the back corner of the basement currently filled with various random items.  


Our home is important to Amy.  She works very hard at making our house a home where our family and others feel comfortable, peaceful, and content.  

And she has done a darn good job.  I love being at home.  Our girls love being at home.  We are all home bodies.  And a primary reason we love being home is the comfortable atmosphere Amy has worked so hard to create. 

Clean bedroom

 I know it drives Amy crazy to walk down the stairs and see my stuff strewn all over the basement table and floor.  In thirty seconds I can turn the space she worked so hard to organize into a disaster area.  

So it is time for me to step up and take responsibility for keeping the basement picked up.  I spend the most time there.  I have turned the basement into my personal man-cave.      

I know I’m not up to tackling this project all at once so I broke it into several smaller goals that are more achievable.  

I’m also not committing yet to a specific starting date.  At this point I am only committing this goal to paper.  But committing it to paper is a significant step as it will greet me each week until I act on it.  


Amy Bowman

Amy’s Thoughts:

“I felt so touched reading this post.  I noticed the basement had been looking very picked up the last few weeks.  I also would feel almost giddy when I would hear the vacuum in the basement running, knowing my man was vacuuming (there is NOTHING like a man who vacuums!).  To know he has more goals set in the area of serving me as his wife makes me feel very loved and thankful.  It also motivates me to check myself and think about how it is that I am purposefully serving him.”

Purposeful Living
Goal Setting & Reflection-February 2013

Foundation Post

Outline Of All Purposeful Living Posts

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    March 11, 2013 at 11:40 am

    Amy, how are you?

    Good news, I would like to personally hand you the “BEST MOMENT AWARD“. Congratulations and enjoy the rest of the day!

  • Donalyn/The Creekside Cook
    March 10, 2013 at 6:57 pm

    My husband doesn’t have responsibility to for any part of our house [we’re empty nesters, he works out and I work from home, plus I’m fussy – all meaning things are just better if I take care of the house], but he does so much outside to make our lives better and easier. Last spring I mused that a greenhouse made from old windows might be a nice thing to have, and this spring, I will be planting seedlings in the one he built.

    Great article Todd!

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