Three Books To Strengthen My Marriage 2013-Part 1

These posts written by Todd (Amy’s husband) are designed to model a system of purposeful living.  At least once a month, he spends time setting meaningful goals around one of seventeen core priorities.
If you missed it, consider reading the foundation post – Purposeful Living #1.


Todd and Amy Bowman of New nostalgia
Correct Priority

Priority #4 – Social Health – Immediate Family–Spouse

Goal Setting & Reflection Date
December 2012

Invest in the social and emotional health and strengthen my marriage by reading and discussing two books with Amy in 2013.  The first book must be a mutually agreed upon marriage book.  The second book may be any book of Amy’s choice.  Specific goals include:

    • Mutually choose a marriage book.
    • Amy chooses a book of her choice.
    • Decide how often to read and discuss each book.
    • Develop a plan to ensure relevant discussion and dialogue.  

Goal Status
Partially Completed


Thoughts – UPDATED
Amy & I have identified the books we will read together and discuss in 2013.  The goal was to select two books, but we ended up choosing three.   

Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
{Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs}

The marriage book we will read is Love & Respect by Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs.  I don’t know much about the book, but Amy has friends who recommended it and she liked the parts she came across while browsing through it.    

Dr. Fuhrman

We also chose two additional books to read together both on the subject of nutrition.  Both are written by Dr. Fuhrman.

Dr. Fuhrman is a board certified family physician, best-selling author, and nutritional researcher who specializes in preventing and reversing disease through nutritional and natural methods.  He is the father (creator) of nutritarian eating.  A key component of nutritarian eating is the Health Longevity Equation which he also created.    

H (Health) = N (Nutrients) / C (Calories)

Dr. Fuhrman

The first nutrition book we chose to read is Eat To Live. This is the first book Dr. Fuhrman wrote and I wanted to start at the beginning to understand the foundational theory and evidence behind his approach to nutrition.

Dr. Fuhrman

The second nutrition book we chose is Super Immunity. This is Dr. Fuhrman’s most recent book and focuses on foods that offer the most nutritional benefit according to his Health Longevity Equation.  

The first book provides theory and evidence on why nutritarian eating is the most effective way to eat.  The second book provides clear advice on the most healthy foods.  

We will read and discuss one chapter each week.  On weeks we go on a date we will discuss the book over dinner at a restaurant or coffee shop.  On weeks we stay home we will discuss the book on a Friday or Saturday night before we start a movie.  We will both highlight parts of the books we consider important and want to share or discuss.  


Thoughts – ORIGINAL
This goal has become a yearly tradition and one that has proven to be very beneficial to our marriage.  

Strong marriages don’t just happen by accident.  They need to be nurtured through commitment and sacrifice.  

Reading a marriage book together is an opportunity to prioritize our marriage.  It will allow us to focus on what is important to keep our marriage strong.  Reading a second book of Amy’s choice is an opportunity to enter Amy’s world.  It is an opportunity to learn what is important to her and show her I care about the details of her life.

In future posts I will share the books we chose and some things I learned from each selection. 


Foundation Post
Build Your To-Do List Around Correct Priorities – Purposeful Living #1

Outline Of All Purposeful Living Posts
Purposeful Living Outline

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